Overheard at a Giant supermarket check-out queue:
Wife: “What about our boy? Are we taking him with us on the trip tomorrow?”
Husband: “What’s the problem? Take him along!”
Wife: “Oh, dear. He won’t be pleased. He’ll want to be with his friends. He’ll throw a tantrum, the poor darling!”
Husband: “Help me understand something, sayang: Who actually calls the shots around here?”
We routinely let our children have their way. And when they expect to have their way all the time – as if it was their birthright – we scratch our heads and wonder why this is so.
Hello! Isn’t it obvious?
I still remember when children used to think of their parents’ will as something sacred. It didn’t matter whether we liked what was asked of us or not: Compliance was always a given. Today, however – because of the way we have brought up our children – is it so surprising that they see their compliance to our instructions/requests/pleas (cross-out the inapplicable) as merely optional?
What is even sadder is when these very children start behaving like mini-feudal lords (and expecting the treatment that goes with the territory); we slap our foreheads in disbelief and start asking ourselves:
“Where did I go wrong? Where did I go wrong?”
And even worse, sometimes even have to audacity to ask:
“Haven’t I already given him everything?”
The real tragedy is that many parents today seem simply unable to make the elementary connection between the two questions.
Personally, I think the boy in this story will get his way. Don’t you?